"When we are crushed like grapes, we cannot think of the wine we will become."
The experience left me angry, bitter, and cynical. I reasoned that relationships aren't worth the hassle because people suck. My attitude had completely blinded me to the fact that I had become a miserable person. But I soon learned that the worst thing that ever happened to me was actually the best thing that ever happened to me. It made me a stronger person. Once I realized that, I stopped being so miserable!
Did you know that a big part of recovery is understanding yourself? It's far more productive to know how your mind works, as well as why you get "stuck" in a traumatic event and continue to make the same mistakes over and over, than it is to study — and obsess over — the people who hurt you.
You see, we are all, in some way, poisonous people. And when we focus on getting our own toxic traits under control, we find that we don't just recover from the toxic people we've been crying over; we actually outgrow them.
If you're tired of feeling powerless, ruminating over how you were wronged, or fearing you've become one of the same people you keep complaining about (i.e. the ones with the negative, pessamistic, victim mentality), then perhaps it's time for something different. I'm glad you're here, and I am rooting for you as you fight to restore balance and peace to your world.
Jennifer Guerriero, Ed.D., LCSW, RDT
My last name is pronounced, "Gary-Arrow."
- Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Florida
- Licensed Master Social Worker, New York
- Registered Drama Therapist, NADTA
- Doctor of Education
- Master of Social Work
- B.A. and M.A. in Theatre
and Existential OCD
As a Christian, my ministry is focused on reaching the prideful, arrogant, and haughty (including judgmental, hypocritical Christians), as well as those suffering from existential dread and despair.